Are You Kind to Others But Mean to Yourself? How To Be Kinder To Yourself

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Are You Kind to Others But Mean to Yourself? How To Be Kinder To Yourself

You probably grew up expecting to treat others well and “treat them how you want to be treated,” which is to say with respect and kindness. But why do so many individuals have trouble implementing this wise advice? But it’s frequently easier said than done to be kind to yourself, especially when you feel like a failure. Instead, many of us revert to becoming our own harshest critic: You constantly make mistakes. Everyone else seems to have their lives together, but not you. You need to make more effort. Does this sound recognizable?

Why is it Easier to be Kind to Others Than Yourself?

Many people find that being kind to others comes effortlessly since it is motivated by empathy and compassion. It might not be easy to show oneself the same kindness, though. We frequently subject ourselves to unattainable standards, point out our inadequacies, and overlook our needs. For well-being, it is crucial to embrace self-kindness. We may promote self-compassion, improve our connection with ourselves, and minimize stress. Remember that you deserve the same compassion you so freely extend to others. Love yourself, and you’ll see changes in your life. Here are a few techniques for doing it:

  • Confront the critic inside yourself: We all have one, but you might not even know it when it enters your mind. Observing the negative voice in your thoughts is the first step to treating yourself with greater care. Consider what you’re telling yourself when you compare yourself to others, for example, or blame yourself for a job error or blunder.
  • Treat yourself like your best friend: Suppose your closest buddy is experiencing anxiety due to a challenging day at work. Do you consider them to have failed? Would you tell them that they are unfit for their position? Would you insist they didn’t merit their promotion because of a single error? You probably wouldn’t speak to your family or friends the way you may speak to yourself. Why, then, do you not merit the same treatment?
  • Practice mindfulness: Self-kindness may be fostered through practicing mindfulness, which is about checking in with yourself and how you feel without judgment. Many methods exist to practice mindfulness, including yoga, meditation applications, and deep breathing exercises. However, these are only some of the alternatives. It can often be as easy as focusing on your bodily sensations or facing your uncomfortable emotions head-on to help you stay rooted in the present. Increasing your awareness of your inner self without passing judgment on it is self-compassion in and of itself.
  • Remember that everyone makes mistakes: Recognizing your errors can help you move on, but dwelling on a seeming failure will only keep you where you are. The truth is that making mistakes is inevitable; they can’t be avoided. Therefore, it’s far more effective to learn to accept them and go on.

The Team at Prestige Mental Health Can Help You Be Kind to Yourself.

Are you prepared to put your mental health first? With Prestige Mental Health in Las Vegas, Nevada, you may learn the transforming power of self-kindness. Our caring staff is here to help you find inner peace and self-acceptance. Make the first move right now by making an appointment by contacting (702) 945-2864. Accepting self-kindness can help you become happier and healthier.

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April is the founder of Prestige Mental Health and is a board certified psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner (PMHNP-BC) who is qualified to practice primary care and psychiatry. She is passionate about providing quality, compassionate, and comprehensive mental health services to children, adolescents, and adults. April specializes in psychiatric illnesses including but not limited to depression, anxiety, ADD/ADHD, PTSD/trauma, bipolar, and schizophrenia.